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Episode 28: Staying Sane During the College Process From a Parent of 5 with Guest Nicole Smith



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The college journey can be stressful especially if you have more than one child – but 5? We are reaching out to parents who have been there and done that to get their take on what worked, what did not, and what they would recommend to a parent just starting the process. Nicole Smith is currently helping her middle child navigate the process as a rising Senior. Nicole will share her tips and suggestions for staying not only sane during the college process but also ways you can support and have fun with your son or daughter on the road. We always love hearing the lessons-learned and sharing the funny stories parents remember. Get comfortable and enjoy our conversation!




Key Takeaways:

  • Start doing college visits early, whether or not your student is really considering that school, just to expose your student to what a college campus is like and how each campus has a different feel to it.
  • During a college visit, both parents and students should take advantage of the interaction and ask questions to the tour guide. Remember: they are a student themselves!
  • Asking a student on campus for directions is an easy way to evaluate how approachable the students are and get a one on one interaction with a real student.
  • Every child is different, so it is essential to listen to your kid’s voice in the college process.
  • Let the student be in the driver seat in terms of choosing schools they want to look at and filling out the common app. Parents are there to guide them, not control their decisions.
  • Picking where a student goes to college is a big step in becoming an adult.
  • Have a plan and a list of schools to visit and later apply to, but be open to other options as they come along.
  • Being undecided on a major as you apply to schools is okay!


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Meet Nicole Smith

Nicole is a Speaker, Podcaster and Fundraiser focused on the value of volunteerism. She has lived all over the country and in recent years traversed the country visiting colleges with two of her five children. She is currently helping her middle child navigate the process as a rising Senior. Nicole proudly parents with benign neglect to enable her kids to develop independence and resilience earlier in life vs. later. Nicole is the NJ Chapter Leader for the global nonprofit Room to Read and hosts a weekly radio show called Happy to Help on Hunterdon Chamber Radio.


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